Message from another gay skateboarder; quiet Monday night in store for Martin ….

Hi, friends and readers:

Well, the message from skateboarder Bryce that I posted this morning has generated a lot of response, including this one from a boy named Kolton:

“Hi, Martin. I’m 15 and live in Southern Cali, near San Diego. I feel sorry for the guy named Bryce who wrote you about getting rejected by his friend. I skate and I’m gay but it hasn’t been a problem for me. I told several friends, including one I skate with, and it hasn’t been a problem. I guess the difference is I live in a city not a small town in Utah. Anyway, tell Bryce to hang tough and he can skate with me any day. I like your blog, keep it up.”

Well, I think it was nice of Kolton to write. When I was fifteen (a hundred years ago), I never would have dreamed of telling anyone I was gay, not even my best friend. But times have clearly changed, and I’m glad boys like Kolton don’t have to feel ashamed of their sexuality.

It’s going to be quiet evening for me. I had a good workout at the YMCA but the pool was too crowded for me to swim, so I walked a mile on the treadmill and then came home. Have a nice Monday night, everyone.

Photos of sad boys; message from an unhappy gay skateboarder ….

Hi, friends and readers:

I normally post upbeat photos of smiling, sexy guys enjoying life. Hey, that’s what this site’s supposed to be about. But yesterday, I received a message from a boy named Bryce, age 16, who lives in a small town in Utah, he didn’t say exactly where. Here’s some of what Bryce wrote:

“Hi, Martin. I found your website by Googling the words “gay skateboarder”, and I came across a bunch of old posts about gay guys who skate. I didn’t find any recent ones, but reading the ones I found helped me feel better about myself.

“I realized I was gay about two years ago, but I kept my feelings to myself. The town I live in is heavily Mormon and real conservative. Gay sexuality is frowned upon.

“Anyway, I developed a deep crush on a guy in my neighborhood, and a few days ago, I made the mistake of telling him how I felt. Let’s just say things didn’t go well. He told me he’d keep my secret to himself, but also said I shouldn’t speak to him anymore, that he found my feelings for him creepy.

“I feel awful, now. And lonely, too. I wish I could run away to someplace where gay men are accepted, but I have to finish high school. I know it’s important. Thanks for reading this message.”

I responded to Bryce privately, and I sure hope he’ll be okay, but I find it so depressing that in this day and age, gay boys and men still feel the sting of discrimination, especially boys who are stuck in situations like Bryce’s. If you are one of these boys, please know that a time will come when you’ll be free to live an openly gay life, and accepted by your friends for who you really are.

I was up early this morning. I devoted 2-1/2 hours to edits on my novel-in-progress, and now it’s 11:30 AM. I’ll read the newspaper, and then after lunch, I’ll visit the YMCA in the city for a workout and lap-swimming session, my first in a week, due to the medical procedure I had performed on me last Wednesday. I’m feeling great, and looking forward to the rest of my day. I’m not sure what I’ll do with my evening, but that’s okay. Have a nice Monday, everyone, and try to keep smiling, even if not everything in your life is rosy. 🙂